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Understand All You Need To Know About Women Body Language

By heavycoder on May 8, 2013 in

When you were a young child, have you ever tried to decode what your parents’ facial expressions mean when you ask them to buy you a new toy or to take you to Disneyland? A frown would likely be a “No!” But a nod would make you jump with joy. As you grow older, it has become a necessity to be able to detect if other people will agree with your decision or proposal. It’s especially important to for men to be able to asses a woman’s body language in dating situations. This is an ability that will truly help negotiators, employees, and even lovers to succeed in their ventures because they would be able to change their approach early enough to adjust to a specific situation.

When trying to attract women, you must be aware of different actions that indicate what she’s thinking about. A quick general look at what body language cues will help you understand her better. These are some indicators of thought:

Positive Body Language

She moves closer to you when you say something interesting
She locks eyes with you and ignores everyone around her
She looks for opportunities to touch you

Negative Body Language

She moves farther away from you during the course of the conversation
When you’re talking to her, she’s looking around the room
Her arms are folded and she has closed body language

Theres also a couple more signs:

  • They’re stroking their chin. This means they are assessing the advantages and disadvantages of the proposal/idea being presented.
  • They take their glasses off, after which they may either (1) clean them, or (2) put the tip of the frame in their mouth. They are buying themselves some time to think things over. A frame in the mouth would also likely indicate that they need more details and they are willing to listen.
  • They are pinching the bridge of the nose most likely with eyes closed. People doing this are engaged in very deep thought. They may be involved in a difficult situation, where they are aware of the consequences that may occur as a result of making crucial decisions.
  • They put a palm below the chin, index finger pointed and extended along the cheek, while other fingers placed beneath the mouth. This gesture more likely indicates thoughts that are criticizing or antagonizing other people.
  • They walk with the head down and hands behind the back. People who walk this way are probably worried about their problems, and they are thinking of ways to solve them.
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Why Free Dating Sites Just Dont Work

By heavycoder on May 7, 2013 in

The main difference between online dating websites and other membership sites is that on joining a dating website, you are required to make an attractive profile, which is used alomost as a marketing tool to present yourself to other members in the best possible light. Without a completed profile you haven’t a chance of attracting other genuine members who are seeking a partner.

Completing a profile of one’s self is regarded by many as the most boring, time consuming chore you could ever be asked to perform by any website. And a large percentage of surfers will “put it off till later today or tomorrow” which in most cases means it will never be done. And in fact oftentimes they will never even return to the website.

Most researchers will agree that those who join a website community solely because its free rarely return to the site or sustain an interest longer than a few days. And it’s not because they are forgetful and don’t remember registering, because the website administrators will almost certainly send out reminders on a daily basis.
The online membership communities which includes dating sites would not exist if it weren’t for the members in their databases and it’s important that all members who bother to sign up, take an active part in the community and the services it offers. Otherwise it is a waste of not only the indolent member’s time, but also the time of the website administrator and other genuine members.

Whereas, on the other hand, in the case of those membership sites that charge a monthly fee to become a member, they will have very few users who register, then stay away or don’t bother to complete a profile. Once a user has been tempted to take out his or her credit card, they will be much more inclined to take their membership seriously enough to create a decent profile and visit it several times a day to monitor interest from other members.

The ‘fee charging’ sites will find it much tougher to get sign ups, but whats the point in having a couple of thousand members in your database if fifteen hundred of them are dormant and don’t even respond to your emails? Much better for all concerned to just have five hundred interested members who pay regular visits to the website and use the facilities to the full.

But what of fee charging dating sites that offer a free period as a trial membership? Well that word “free” continues to cause complacency, but to a lesser degree. Whilst a free period may attract prospective members to a trial period, there are still a large percentage of these free users, who do not return to the website after subscribing.

Many dating sites who offer a free trial period, require the user to complete a profile before they are accepted as a free member. Some users however, will want to explore the member database before joining, and if required to join before they are allowed to search, a large percentage of these users will simply move on, and prospective members will be lost.. perhaps to a competitor website.

The highest number of long term signups per 1000 site visitors is enjoyed by those dating sites offering a free trial period, along with a script that will auto delete profiles not completed within a given period of say seven days.
The lowest number of long term signups per 1000 site visitors reflects the success rates of the ‘absolutely free for all’ membership websites, dating or otherwise.

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Four Hot Signs Of Attraction

By heavycoder on May 6, 2013 in

In today’s society, beauty, physical attraction, and sexuality are all commonly misunderstood as some transcendent inevitable fact; falsely interlocking the three makes it seem doubly true that in order to initiate attraction between a man and a woman, both sexes should be beautiful to be sexual.

That of course is not true at all. The definitions of beautiful, attraction, and sexual constantly change to serve the social order, and the connection between the three ideas is a recent invention.

Some psychologists contend that the disparity among the concepts of beauty, attractions, and sexuality is based on the premise that both sexes are inclined to physical or sexual attraction because women are able to view men just as men view women, as subjects for sexual and aesthetic evaluation.

In a survey conducted by an “evolutionary psychologist,” from 10,000 individuals who were interviewed, it was found out that men have high-regards to physical attraction in their budding sexual mates, while women attach importance to prominence, goals, and monetary sources.

No wonder why most cases of attraction are all based on sexuality and physical attributes. This is because men and women would rather have their significant others physically and sexually capable of giving them their necessities.

For instance, men are attracted to women who look good because this indicates excellent vigor and the capacity to produce offspring babies. On the other hand, women are attracted to men who look good because this indicates abundance in financial resources, in which, the ability to provide the basic necessities to their children is generated.

The point here is that both men and women may have their own basis for attraction but everything is generally focused on the physical and material aspects. This is because attraction is associated with the fact that the physical attributes motivate that part of the brain known as the “hypothalamus” that will produce different kinds of reactions from the body such as sexual arousal, increased heart rate, and perspiration.

So the question now is: How can the individual identify the clear signs of attraction?

There are many probable actions that might suggest attraction. However, the real signs include but not limited to the following:

1. Visual contact

This is when both a man and a woman gazed upon each other and instantly prolonged the moment as they look at each other longer than the typical glance.

Both are completely immersed on each other’s anecdote, and every word will impress them both. All eyes are glued to each other that send a message that they are drawn to each other.

2. Preen

Preening means to adorn oneself carefully or to groom oneself with particular attention to details. Hence, attraction sets in when both would try to instantly make a quick fix and conquer each other’s space.

3. Flirting

Teasing could have been the more appropriate term for it. This is when both sexes converse in a relaxed manner, with bodily actions associated to their thoughts and feelings, where, most often than not, sexual tensions and arousal are the primary upshots.

4. Physical contact

This is when a woman leans to wards the man and places a modest hand on his hand or arm. In this way, the woman is trying to tell the other person that she is attracted to him and that she is open to possibilities that involve the concerned person.

All of these things are boiled down to the fact that the asymmetry of the correlation among beauty, attraction, and sexuality that tells both men and women lies on how they both perceive each other’s physical attributes. This is inevitable because the lack of it will definitely keep them sexually estranged.

Attraction is generally focused on imagery that is exclusively on the physical attributes of both men and women, where the society has created a very important role. This goes to show that the signs of attraction indicate the clear identification of desirability.

Given all that, both men and women should make the choice, by and large, to take each other as human beings first and not just mere sexual objects.

It should be well noted that these signs of attraction may be well confined on the premise that both men and women send out these signs as a ticket to conquer each other’s space so as to start the “getting-to-know-each-other” stage.

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Dressing Tips For College Guys

By heavycoder on May 6, 2013 in

What does one need in order to fit into a certain college group? Is dressing that important to a college guy? Will an ugly or fair looking guy be popular if he dresses up nicely? Well, the fact is that there are so many things that can affect your status in a certain college or university. The way you look and the way you dress are among these factors that can affect your value in college society.

If you’re not that good looking but you want to attract attention, here are some dressing tips for college guys. First, dressing up is like an art, you have got to have a bit of imagination and try to go along with them. Imagine yourself or visualize yourself wearing a backstreet boy kind of look and once you think that it suits you. Or you may visualize yourself to an even more mature look like wearing polo shirts or long sleeves with slacks. This type of dressing tips for college guys is among the most basic of all the dressing tips.

Another of these dressing tips for college guys has something to do with color matching. When you buy the clothes that fit you, try to match their colors, like light blue shirt and dark blue or dark pants except brown pants. Among the major dressing tips for college guys is that brown shirts and pants are hard to suit with other types of colors except black and white. You can also experiment on your color combination, meaning; to try to fit the colors of your shirt and pants.

Included in the dressing tips for college guys are the shoes. Shoes are the most neglected part of a college guy’s fashion. Your shoes must be able to suit your shirt and pants. For example, your upper body attire is fit for formal functions and so were your pants; wearing rubber shoes will be a major effect in clashing your style.

One of these dressing tips for college guys has a connection with the weather. You must try to wear clothes appropriately, in terms of the weather. For example, during summer, it is not appropriate to wear clothes that are long like jackets, and clothes that are too thick. These things even though they are basic can have a lot of effect on your social status in your school.

But the best among these dressing tips for college guys is for you to wear clothes that you’re most comfortable of. Being comfortable with what you are wearing can have effects on the way people see you and also the way people treat you.

So far, the dressing tips for college guys that you have read were only the basics. To be able to be aware of some of the dressing tips for college guys, you must try reading fashion magazines which can give you the latest trends and styles.

The television can also give some dressing tips for college guys. In the cable or television, you can see a lot of college students with different looks and styles. There are also some channels that directly give dressing tips for college guys. Whenever you’re watching the television, try visualizing that you are wearing the same clothes as the guys you saw in the TV. See if it suits you.

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Double Your Dating Confidence

By heavycoder on May 5, 2013 in

The first step to becoming the confident guy you’ve always wanted to be is to close your eyes and imagine every aspect of his character. Without a very vivid picture of who you want to become, you’ll never become him.

I want you to take a moment to ponder each one of these questions: How does he walk? How does he move? What does his voice sound like? Does he hold his head high? How does he dress? I want you to go through every aspect of his character. Get an extremely clear vision in your head of this fictional character. Now I want you to say to yourself, “If I can see him, I can be him”. Take your face and put it on this character. I want you to brand this image into your subconscious. In your mind, get used to walking around like this guy. Get used to talking like him.

Just as you wouldn’t expect to be the best piano player in the world without practicing, you shouldn’t expect to be a “cool”, confident guy without practicing. Become comfortable with the new guy you’ve created. I want you to really embrace the concept that you can be anyone you want. No guy was born a “ladies’ man”. Practice this visualization for at least 5 minutes a day and you’ll become more and more comfortable being this “character”.

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Do’s and Don’ts in Dating Russian Brides

By heavycoder on May 4, 2013 in

Dating over the Internet has been one of the most popular way of meeting your life partner.  There are a lot of websites that profile women of different age and background that you can choose from.  And one of the most popular women that marriage agencies feature are from Russia.

So, if you are up to dating a Russian woman, establishing a long-term romantic relationship with her and eventually, spending the rest of your life with her, then, here are some facts about Russian Brides in terms of the qualities that they are looking for in a man, their motivation for marriage as well as other dating habits.

More and more Russian Brides are highly educated.  Thus, they are able to grasp the English language and adapt to a different culture.  And like other women who are serious about looking for love, Best Russian Girls are not there to marry foreign men just to get a green card or to better her own life.  More and more educated Russian Brides are able to look for work, though there is only about twenty five percent who are able to get a job that is related to their degree.

At the same time, Russian Brides are wise in choosing their potential partner.  They are not out there to marry loser men as Russian Brides are searching for good-looking, financially stable and sound men.

Russian Brides deem love and security important in a marriage or in any romantic relationship.  In fact, there are about thirty percent Russian Brides who are ready to marry men who they are in love with.  Also, Russian Brides these days are very practical so, they search for men who are financially capable but the women do not force their husbands to support them solely.

Best Russian Girls prefer older men who are five to fifteen years older then them.  This is the case as Russian Brides firmly believe that older men are more emotionally mature and they are able to raise a family.

If you want to get in touch with a Russian woman, state it in your first letter to her in the middle of yoru message and attach your recent photo.  This way, she would immediately get to know you and she can decide if she is attracted to you or otherwise.

Also, handwritten letters are better than E-mail, though the latter is the easiest way to correspond with a Russian woman.  And you can send in, let’s say, a gift to a Russian woman that you find attractive in order to impress her and she would think how thoughtful you are.

Lastly, while Russian dating is easy but you must always ensure that when you do correspond with not just a Russian woman but with other women, you must always reveal your true self.  If you are not able to do so, this would backfire in a big way since there would come a time that the woman will ask you to meet her in person.  If you said that you have the height and the built of Brad Pitt but you are the complete opposite, then, that is not very nice.

Anyway, it is in the writer’s hope that you will find your perfect Russian woman.  Good luck in your search!

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Flirting with Married Women

By heavycoder on May 2, 2013 in

Flirting is a basic instinct, part of a human
nature. It is a universal and essential aspect of
human interaction. We see flirting as a fun thing;
a man flirts with a woman in order to attract
her, to ask her on a date.

There are two reasons why people flirt. Guys
which are flirting for fun do this because they
might seen a beautiful woman and flirt with her,
in order to meet her better, to have fun with her,
but not to start a relationship. The others,
which are flirting with intent, are more
selective about their choice, and want to meet
someone for a possible relationship.

The best places to flirt are parties, bars, clubs,
disco, and at the workplace.  The first key to
successful flirting is not an ability to show off
and impress, but the knack of conveying that you
like someone.

However, you are single and you decided to go to
pick up some girls. You dressed up to impress,
smell good and start to flirt with a beautiful
woman from the club you are. After you use non
verbal flirting like body language, eye contact,
which indicates intense emotion, or gestures
which can signal interest, attraction and
invitation, you see that the beautiful woman is
responding you with a big smile and starts a
conversation with you.

After you compliment her and make her feel
special with you, she tells you that she is
married. Is this a big problem for you? If not,
if you want to approach her anyway you have to
compliment her, show interest about her, and be
sincere about it. Jerks hit all the time on
married women. That is why you have to show her
that she is interesting to you.

Married and flirting do not mix well. However,
many people do not consider this wrong as far as
it is just for fun. Flirting is like a game but
sometimes when you return the flirt things go a
little further. Often flirting is spontaneous, it
just happens as a normal response to somebody you
find appealing.

Dealing with married woman is very different from
women that are dating and single; there is a huge
amount of stigma applied by family, friends,
society, in order to try to keep married people
faithful.

Married women are usually looking to find someone
with whom to talk about their problems, someone
like a friend to understand them.  If she really
wants to get into an extra- conjugal relationship
means that she has problems in her marriage, she
is bored of her husband, or she has a husband
that travels a lot and that is why she feels
lonely.

That is why she might be looking for someone to
offer her what her husband cannot. She is looking
for attention, love, understanding. She wants to
get much attention, time and affection as
possible without having to give up anything, so
you will be in her eyes just a friend. You should
tell her from the beginning that you will give
her all your attention if she would give you what
you want from her.

Usually married woman flirt, kiss and play guys
all the time but without any intention of taking
it further. If it happens to get with her in bed,
remember that a woman who is willing to cheat is
looking for excitement, drama. However, watch out
not to become her toy.

There are married women that need to see if
people are still interest in them. Therefore,
they begin to flirt to find out if they are still
attractive; they lose this feeling because their
husbands do not make them feel attractive anymore.

There are people who consider that flirting with
married people is harmless. Therefore, it is at
your choice if you really want to flirt with a
married woman and if you can handle it.

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Deathmatch: American vs. Romanian Woman

By heavycoder on May 2, 2013 in

Why is it that a lot of American guys are
traveling to meet brides in Europe?

Are Romanian women good choices for American guys?

These are some questions frequently asked on
forums. Just take a look at the answers; it
depends on who is giving it. There are some quite
rude ones give by frustrated American women. I
really understand them, it is not easy to accept
the thing that you are there, next to so many men,
you are available, single and they choose to fly
miles away to meet another woman to be their life
PARTENER.

What is wrong with these guys?

I asked myself the same question, and I start to
ask the question to some of my American friends.

One of them, which two years ago divorced from
his American ex wife confessed that  he has a
great career, hobbies, friends but his ex wife
keep asking him for more and more. He never did
enough, he never earned enough and the
relationship between them got colder from the
first year of marriage.

But one year ago, he had the chance to meet
online a great Romanian woman and his life has
changed, he lives a peaceful, happy life. Also he
has changed as a person, he is more confident, he
feels loved and appreciated.

“Honestly I wish I could have found an American
wife with all the qualities of my Romanian wife.
I could not, because they do not exist. Here is a
partial list of her loveliness: sensible and good
with money, genuine commitment, very family
oriented, she enjoys housework, hard working, and
she does not have to diet to look great.

Romanian women are comfortable in their
femininity. As a male I am attracted to this. And
I love her with all my heart” are his exact words.

So the engine behind the huge number of US guys
searching LOVE and APRECIATION at European women
appears to be the feeling American women have
that they deserve better. They deserve more, they
cannot accept mediocrity, they have to get what
they want, they cannot lose, they, they. That is
egoism in its purest form.

To have a family and provide security, it is
essential for both partners to be committed and
hard-working. Most American males have a very
strong work-ethic; many are workaholics for the
benefit of their families, which Romanian women
find very appealing.

Other thing Romanian women found attractive about
the Americans is they know how to show respect
for women – they show fine behavior and don’t
expect women to be less smart and prepared to be
a slave for them.

So, are Romanian women and American men a perfect
match? A lot of Romanian women dating their
American counterparts seem to think so. The
divorce rate for American and Romanian marriages
is only 4%! Go figure!

A lot of people have great success with online
dating.

For the first time, Americans can easily get in
touch with Romanian women without struggling to
find one another. If you are interested in
meeting a Romanian woman you can do that without
searching high and low for them! Simply find a
website that is right for you, write a profile
about what you want, and start dating the women
that you’d like to be dating!

You deserve to find the people you are interested
in and which can make you feel special, and they
deserve to find you, too!

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Donald Trump and The Apprentice Rules Applied to Dating

By heavycoder on May 1, 2013 in

I was reading an article about the Apprentice and some of the rules that Donald Trump and his apprentice assistants had come up with about business. While reading a lot of them I saw a huge relation to how these same rules also apply to dating as crazy as it might sound.

Donald Trump is a famous Billionaire who has endured ups and downs for a number of decades. It appears a large portion of his wealth has been made in Real Estate. Recently he has had a popular reality series NBC has been showing known as the Apprentice. The Reality Show isn’t all frivolous as a lot of the other reality shows around. At the center of every episode are real gems on how to climb a corporate ladder, how to lead, how to stand out from the crowd and even how to fail and avoid getting the boot.

The Apprentice centers on a competition for a job working for the Billionaire Donald Trump. Every episode features some sort of business task or some sort of competition. At the end of each episode some of the competitors are fired which means they leave the show and miss out on the opportunity to work for My Trump. This takes place in the Boardroom where members are encouraged to evaluate their teammates performance, abilities, work ethics. The guy who makes the biggest errors tends to be the one “fired”. Beyond winning the competition, each individual team member must act in a manner that earns him or her respect as a project manager or team member.

Some of the gems of the show for thought.

1. Think Like A Winner

Donald Trump’s most profound comment (and first commandment) is, “Winning is everything.” He explained that while there is no better feeling… the ability to think like a winner is the key to being one. Those who take their eyes off the prize wind up hearing two little words: you’re fired.

This relates to dating as somebody who feels confident can be confident. A person who feels he has already won a battle has a huge edge over somebody who feels he has a lot of obstacles to overcome. A person who feels he is a winner is a winner as your beliefs are what shape you. The person you wish to win over will be heavily more attracted to somebody who believes in themselves than somebody who doesn’t.

2. Polish Your Interview Skills

The importance of exceptional interview skills became crucial as the field narrowed to the final four contestants in episode 14. Kelly, Jennifer M, Kevin and Stacy underwent a grueling series of job interviews with four of the top business leaders in the world. The two candidates left standing after this process — Kelly and Jennifer M — demonstrated superior ability to think on their feet. Some of the spontaneous answers lobbed by Kevin and Sandy, made viewers cringe. It quickly became clear who had the ‘right stuff’ to survive the hot seat.

This second rule can be applied to having good communication skills. Somebody who can think of their feet and express their thoughts easily can communicate their feelings much more easily. Somebody who is also good at interviews will know what to say that can open somebody up to a whole new level. They will allow a great sense of rapport to be built quickly and be very deep.

3. Lead Strong or Play Along

Getting their team of ‘alphas’ to follow without question was a challenge for each project manager. Some ruled with an iron fist, others used manipulation and guilt. Some didn’t handle it at all. In episode 11, Wes took the lead in a task to create an ad campaign for Levi’s Jeans. Maria, one of his teammates, thought she had this task together and angrily told Wes to back off, while she seized control. Maria was so busy throwing her weight around, she missed the primary focus of jeans advertising… the ‘butt shots’. This single oversight cost the team dearly. Later, in The Boardroom, Wes was fired for failing to control Maria,,, and she was fired for posing as a know-it-all. Two for the price of one turned out to be all in a day’s work for Mr. Donald Trump.

On this and dating. One of the things we teach our students in workshops is to lead and never hesitate. When a student sees strong indications of interest it is his responsibility to act on them and follow up. If a student fails to lead than the interest level will soon drop to a very low level quickly. Learning to Play along can also be taken as a way to see the signals and be aware of them. When somebody is showing interest it’s best to play along and let them be interested than giving them something else.

4. Step Up; Take Responsibility

Finger-pointing was rampant among teams on the Apprentice. If you were really slick about it, laying blame off on one of your teammates could help you survive another day. If you weren’t… oh well.

This is a common thing I see with some students when I hear about what they have done before working with Fidentia in a workshop. They fail to take responsibility for their own actions. This is done in so many ways its crazy. First if they have a bad date they blame the date a lot, where they went, what they did, others around –yet they never look at themselves and wonder if they could have done anything different to improve the situation. The only way to learn from mistakes is to first realize you made a mistake in the first place.

Another example is guys who use different systems for dating. There are many programs out there. I can make ALL of them work. When a student can not make something work. They tend to first want to blame the system instead of themselves. So they are on a constant search of dating systems never realizing that each system has had some students have success. They can not learn if they do not take responsibility for their own actions.

5. Resist the Impulse to Be Impulsive

The game provides that the winning project manager receive an exemption from firing should his or her team lose the following week — an Apprentice “Get Out of Jail Free” card.

Bradford won week one… but lost in week two. He had clearly been the hardest working and most productive on his team and Mr. Trump seemed to especially favor him. Moreover, he had the exemption and could not be fired. All he had to do was sit back and make insightful comments about his teammates.

But Bradford let his cockiness get in the way of sound business judgment. He bragged to Mr. Trump that he was so confident of his performance he was willing to give up his exemption.

Trump accepted Bradford’s offer… and then fired him, for making an unwise and impulsive decision. It was a harsh, but instructive consequence for acting in a rash manner.

One of the things I can think of with this is somebody who is too impulsive is not paying attention to others. A relationship is a two way street involving both parties. When somebody is being impulsive and the other person isn’t respective than this creates a dead end.

6. Instill Confidence in Your Team

Both of the final two contestants, Kelly and Jennifer M, demonstrated how to respect and inspire their co-workers. Choosing people you trust and with whom you have mutual respect goes a long way toward success.

In the final episode, eight of the previously fired teammates were brought back to become the support team for the final task. Jennifer and Kelly were allowed to take turns choosing their team members. Kelly took a stronger role with his team, expecting more of each of them, while Jennifer delegated the heavy lifting to herself.

In the end, both sets of teams did a great job for their PMs, but Kelly’s team proved more loyal and spoke more highly of his leadership abilities. Their confidence in him had an impact on the final outcome.

This can be taken in installing confidence in who you are attracted to. When you are interested in them and extremely confident. Others will feel your true feelings. When they can feel your feelings they will mirror them. Who wants to be around somebody who takes away their confidence?

7. Watch What You Say

Both talking too much and saying the wrong thing can hurt you in business. Jennifer C was an example of both errors and their consequences. Every time she appeared in The Boardroom, Jennifer was admonished by both Mr. Trump and his property manager, Carolyn, for talking when she should have been listening to others.

Later, after making a demeaning comment about two women customers in an episode, she was booted from the show. To add injury to her insult, when the show finally aired, she was also fired from her real world job for that comment.

This applies to dating with the idea of listening is just as important as talking. Telling somebody they are pretty when they are trying to make a point and have something important to say is not what they want to hear. The same would go for things such a negative hits or being cocky and funny which are terms used in the seduction community.

A negative hit is a slight insult which is supposed to be insulting but not seem like you meant it. I do not usually endorse this. It is to try to convey you are not really interested in your target person to let their guard down.

Somebody who is being very cocky and funny can do so at the wrong time too. When a person is showing signs of interest they are asking for rapport. Giving them answers that are cocky and funny will actually break rapport and chase a lot of people away.

8. Know When to Listen

During another visit to The Boardroom, Trump chastised (National Debate Champion) Andy for not standing up and arguing in his own behalf. Andy shot back to Mr. Trump that part of being a debate champ is in knowing when to talk and when to listen.

A short and sweet argument that paid off.

I think this and how it applies to dating and seduction is very obvious. Listening is a key part of communication.

9. Keep it Strictly Business

Viewers were told — over and over — that The Apprentice contestants were culled from over a million applicants and were said to be the best of the very best. This being so, one wouldn’t expect the male participants to lose their composure when attractive women crossed their paths, mid-task. And yet, there was Raj. In addition to an unending stream of inappropriate comments, Raj stopped just short of a butt wiggle and a “woooo, whooo ” whenever a beautiful woman was within ten feet.

And while this behavior did not directly lead to his being fired, it did (often) cause him to lose focus and take his eye off the prize. In fact, Raj was ultimately fired for letting an important detail slide — making sure the toilet was installed in a home he was charged with remodeling.

This is a little bit more difficult to summarize for dating. Somebody who lacks focus tends to lack drive. When you really have a goal in mind going after 20 different things usually gets somebody nowhere.

10. Avoid Showing Your A**

This one should be a no-brainer, but since it actually happened, maybe not. Fairly late in the game, in episode 13, Ivana was desperate for a win. Clutching at straws, she offered to pull down her skirt and flash her underwear to a strange businessman on the street if he would pay her twenty dollars for a candy bar worth one dollar. He did… and then she did… So, it was no surprise that Ivana wound up in The Boardroom, having to explain this gaff to Mr. Trump. She claimed her action as a ‘gimmick.’ But this taught us another valuable lesson — know when you have done something inappropriate and face it head on. When she refused to acknowledge that she crossed a line, the shock, dismay and controversy surrounding her behavior was palpable.

Well this is true but there is a time to show you’re a** and a time not to show your assets. When you first meet somebody common sense says don’t take off your pants as the first things you do when introducing yourself.

To summarize all of this a lot of the rules that help somebody get ahead in business can also help them get ahead dating others. Take a look at the website. To learn more about “The Apprentice” go to http://www.NBC.com

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Dealing with Online Dating Rejection

By heavycoder on May 1, 2013 in

An unfortunate part of the dating process has always been and will always be rejection.  Simply put, not every person that you come across will be the type that you would like to pursue something more with; either they’re not your type physically, or else other key differences in personality begin to show as the friendship progresses.  The same can be said about other people and their opinions of you, as well.  At some point, the time comes to accept your differences and agree to move in different directions.

In a traditional social setting, this rejection can often be a harsh and humiliating affair.  Often it is based solely on physical attraction or lack thereof, and often it given with more venom than the other person perhaps intends.  Said unfriendliness is often understandable, however; during a given night in a bar or nightclub, a physically attractive person will receive the lion’s share of the attention from the crowd, desired or otherwise.  Nonetheless, it can be a crushing affair to work your way over to a person in a social setting and instigate conversation only to be loudly and unceremoniously shot down.

In an online setting, this blow is often softened a bit by virtue of the different methods of interaction.  Because of the nature of online dating, both parties are free to pursue any sort of interaction at their own pace.  Instead of feeling pressured to act by time, alcohol, and the people surrounding them, a person who is desirous of speaking further with another can do so at a much more relaxed, leisurely pace.  Furthermore, it takes a while before either party can be said to have invested significant time into the relationship, or for that matter before the conversation can even be classified as a relationship.

For these reasons, an online rejection is often easier to bear than a verbal one.  If you express interest in another person and they opt not to continue contact, you’ve lost very little of your time and effort, and you know that there exists a multitude of other people that you may have better luck with.  In some cases, it takes a while before personality differences begin to show themselves, and you may have been talking to another person for some measure of time before they tell you that they’d just as soon desist.  Even then, however, the impersonality of email or telephone conversations lessens the impact of this, and you are able to take solace in the knowledge that the differences between you two would have ultimately proven detrimental to a lasting relationship.

Along these lines, you may on occasion find yourself having to play the role of the rejecter.  In cases such as these, the same points mentioned above are applicable.  It is never an easy thing to tell somebody that you would just as soon not speak with them any longer, but the comparative anonymity of the internet gives you the option of letting them down far more softly than you would be able to otherwise.  Again, neither party is overly-invested in the relationship at first, and thus any rejection is easier to bear and to give.

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